
Looking back doesn’t cost as much as looking forward. I suppose that is why so many of us do it from time to time.
The story has been conveyed before. I graduated from high school in 1986. From that time until the spring of 1991, I was a man with very little direction. As one friend tried to put it, he said I was finding myself. I disagreed and told him I was right here all along. Through it all, my mind has always been open. That is no great secret. At least I hope it is not.
In and out of school over the course of more than four years, I finally heeded the call to return to academia in earnest thanks to a serendipitous conversation I had with Mrs. Nancy Totten. Nancy worked at the Indiana University Southeast library and also taught some writing courses, one of which I was a student. With me, it always circles back around with the process of putting words on a literal or mechanized piece of paper.
So in the spring of 1991, I was back in school for real this time. Still unsure of the end game, I felt it. This was the right thing to do. Thank God I was paying attention.
In my life I have never been short on coming across the right person at the right time for inspiration, affirmation, and direction. This correlates with that open-mindedness we mentioned earlier; I am sure about that. At the top of the list is Dr. Millard Dunn. I have written about Millard here on many occasions. He showed me an English classroom could actually look and sound like one I might be in charge of some day. The dominoes started to tumble. The snowball gained momentum and rolled with ease. All of that sort of stuff.
Around this time I was in my natural habitat. I would spend three consecutive falls on a football field as a high school assistant coach. After deciding on English as a teaching goal, in the fall of 1992 I had my first “field experience”. This is where the college student is assigned a particular high school to visit and also assigned a particular teacher to observe. Once again, I was seriously smiled upon.
“You’re assigned to New Albany High School”, my college professor said. “Your teacher to observe is Mr. Danny Tieken. Good luck.”
With that, I was given an assignment to go to New Albany High School, meet Danny Tieken, and work up a schedule with him that would include a set amount of hours of observation in Mr. Tieken’s classroom. When I walked into his classroom, I met a short, portly gentleman with a bit of a scraggly beard that he had a habit of scratching at when he spoke to you. His eyes? As kind as any set I had ever seen and sincerely interested in everything you too had to say. I was at ease in a single moment. Check that box and then, check every other box.
Within five minutes of conversation, I discovered Mr. Tieken was Coach Tieken. And we were off. He called me Coach. I called him Coach. I learned more about the vertical passing game sitting at his desk XXXXing and OOOOing than I had ever learned before. And I thought I knew something. Our time was special. I gained even more affirmation that an English classroom could indeed work like I wanted it to. His rapport with his students was genuine. Again, Coach Tieken was “one of those”. One of those folks that left an indelible mark on my life. Every day I was there at New Albany we ate lunch with New Albany legends Don Unruh, Lee Kelly, and Jim Miller. I had a blast every time we sat together. I listened and I learned. I spoke when I was spoken to. I did not want to get in the way. I didn’t.
I lost track of how many coaching stops Danny Tieken made. I was envious. I don’t get that way. Head Coach at Dugger, Mitchell, and Brown County, and assistant coach at the likes of New Albany, Bloomington North and Evansville North among others.
Coach Tieken and I would meet up in subsequent years going to coaching meetings. We then kept up with emails now and again. Ultimately, we became “friends” all over again on facebook.
Our last back and forth messages were on March 20th of this year. I was giving him encouragement, as I knew he was dealing with health issues. He said he appreciated it and said he was feeling better.
Coach Tieken passed away this past Tuesday. I was not shocked. Just sad. He was one of the good guys. There is a legion of players having a difficult time saying goodbye to their Coach. They knew him better than I did.